**Kate Gosselin Has Been Secretly Dating Her Bodyguard for Nearly 20 Years, Ex-Husband Claims**
*Published Oct. 1, 2025, 6:45 p.m. ET*
Kate Gosselin has reportedly been in a secret relationship with her bodyguard, Steve Neild, for close to 20 years. According to her ex-husband, Jon Gosselin, this long-standing romance was the real reason behind the demise of their marriage, RadarOnline.com can reveal.
The mother of eight recently opened up about being in a relationship with a mystery man for “a little over a year,” saying they had known each other “for a really long time.” However, Jon seems to have a different perspective.
### Jon Gosselin Reacts to Kate’s New Relationship
“I definitely think it’s her bodyguard Steve, 100 percent,” Jon told The U.S. Sun, when asked who he believes his ex-wife is currently seeing. “He’s been a consistent person in her life.”
He added, “I’m not even upset that she’s with someone… I’m more concerned about when it actually transpired because I know for a long, long time, at least 17 years, that they have been canoodling or together.”
The 48-year-old continued, “Obviously, it’s been longer than a year. I know for a fact. I do have children and do have a relationship with my children. They tell me stuff.”
### Jon Speculates Kate Was ‘Cheating’ During Their Marriage
Jon also offered a theory as to why Kate kept the relationship under wraps for so many years, speculating it was financially motivated.
“If you’re with someone, why are you doing a dating show?” Jon asked, referring to Kate’s 2019 reality series, *Kate Plus Date*. He added, “I was labeled a cheater by TLC and Kate for 17 years. Our divorce didn’t end because I was cheating. Our divorce ended because I knew she was seeing Steve.”
“When I left, they just created the narrative that I was cheating and I was moving on and doing other things. All meanwhile, I know these two were still hooking up or doing whatever,” Jon alleged.
Dropping a bombshell, Jon told the outlet, “I believe Kate was cheating on me during my marriage,” pointing to when Neild stayed overnight at the family’s Pennsylvania home while they were all under the same roof.
“I felt it odd that he was sleeping in my house when we were filming,” Jon explained. “He slept in the basement of my house. I can’t protect my wife and my family? That was strange.”
He recalled another incident: “She fell and hurt herself on the treadmill. I’m standing right there. I said, ‘I’ll call an ambulance.’ She said, ‘No, call Steve.’”
### Jon Questions Kate’s Timeline
Jon is also skeptical of Kate’s claim that she has been with this new partner for only a year.
“Now you want to say you have only been with this person for 12 months when you’ve ruined 17 years of multiple people’s lives? That’s the problem,” he said angrily. “You ruined so much of my life by labeling me this thing and the demise of our marriage, when all in all, pot calling kettle black.”
### Background: Their Marriage and Divorce
Kate, 50, and Jon, 48, married in 1999 and separated a decade later. Together, they share eight children and gained fame through their popular TLC show, *Jon & Kate Plus 8*.
Throughout their marriage, Jon was often accused of infidelity, but he has consistently denied cheating.
“I’ve never cheated on Kate. I waited until I was separated and then moved on,” Jon clarified. “I moved to New York in June of 2009. And I already knew we already filed for divorce.”
Jon also previously claimed that Kate and Steve Neild have been living together. “She just wants to not own that truth. And told my other kids, ‘Do not tell him at all.’ Well, why not tell me? Because you know I know the truth. And that has happened for years. He has been living there forever,” he revealed.
He had some words for Steve Neild: “Today, I would say, ‘Just own up to it.’”
### Kate Speaks Out on Their Divorce
In August 2025, Kate addressed her long and bitter divorce from Jon during a TikTok session, saying the process could have been much smoother if Jon had been willing to “play nice.”
She said, “I didn’t buy into all the drama and the hate and the ugly. I had kids involved, so I wanted it to be as peaceful for them as I possibly could…”
“A lot of things happened that I could not control that did not turn out well for my kids… I did my best. It could’ve been a lot calmer and a lot nicer if everybody was willing to play nice.”
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**Tags:** Kate Gosselin, Jon Gosselin, Steve Neild, Celebrity News, Reality TV, Divorce Drama
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